Positive self-esteem is probably the single most important requirement
for children to reach their full potential. While Self esteem is important, it is also fragile.
Parents will find that children vary in their ability to get a keep a positive self esteem.
Following are some do's and don'ts for developing self-esteem.

DO'S:
*DO tell your children that you love them and that you always will.
*DO play with your children.
*DO spend private time with each child.
*DO model a positive self esteem and don't run yourself down.
*DO recognize and praise good behavior.
*DO encourage your children to have high but realistic goals.
*DO assume the responsibility for a divorce and assure the child that it is not their fault.

DON'TS:
*DON'T ridicule a child's feelings or expressions of insecurity.
*DON'T take good behavior for granted and comment only on misbehavior.
*DON'Tcompare siblings and encourage them to compete.
*DON'T show favoritism and don't have a favorite child.
*DON'T use derogatory pet names such as "Melon Head" or "Dummy."
*DON'T demand perfection.
*DON'T criticize the doer, criticize the deed.
*DON'T ever allow a child to feel abandoned in a break up or divorce.

If a child lives with criticism, He learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, He learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, He learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame, He learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, He learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement, He learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise, He learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness, He learns justice.

If a child lives with security, He learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, He learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,

He learns to find love in the world.